My mom was a “stay-at-home-mom,” so it’s really hard for me to imagine handing my child over to someone else for 40 hours a week. It feels like someone else would be raising my child. And even if it were a close relative, something just doesn’t feel totally settled about it in my gut. Probably most moms feel that way.
Before my baby arrived almost two months ago now(!), I was not working. A contract job I was at ended a few months before she was due, and it didn’t seem like the best time in life to job hunt after that.
Now the standard “maternity leave” time is ending, so it’s time to more seriously consider whether to “work” or not to “work”?
I use the quotation marks because being a stay-at-home-mom — or homemaker, to refer to this lovely blog title — isn’t a get-out-of-jail-free card from working. Watching children 24/7 requires special patience. Then there’s cleaning, laundry (washing, folding, and putting away thereof), meal-planning, grocery shopping, cooking, general penny-pinching, household maintenance…
We could really stand to be a two-income family again. But as we crunch the numbers of buying care for our new tiny human, the income we have left after paying a sitter leaves us wondering: Is it worth it? Would my time be better spent at home, trying to save us money? There are intangibles like my sanity to consider, but I’m still on the line.
- Certainly, if the number of tiny humans we own increases, affording day care will pretty much be out of the question.
- Someday we will be out of tiny humans, though, and I’ll want to have my skills sharp.
- I could try to find what home-based work I can.
- How realistic is that? — that I’ll find/create any, and that I’ll be able to manage it.
- I have a bachelor’s degree, and am still paying for it. Shouldn’t I be using it?
For some moms, they love to work, and that’s that. I enjoy certain jobs, but I am a homebody. Other moms work solely for the health insurance. Like them all, I want what’s best for my family, but I’m not sure what that is.